Truthfully.....

One of my favorite lyrics is "If you don't like the peach, then walk on by the tree". Why is it that some of our dates turn into one month wonders and others turn into the famous "Uhaul"? I think I'm the same with everyone I meet. I know I expect the same from those I encounter, so why do some want us eternally while others see us as a good time only? I think it's a few things. First off I think the very insecure need to meet some kind of quota to feel thier own importance. I also believe that the new internet singles seem to conjure up some grand vision of the one they are interested in and find themselves dissapointed when they realise that the one they have courted is just as human as they are.
So many of my friends are "on the market" and date a lot of strangers they meet on line. I am constantly reminding those I am close to about discretion while travelling the well travelled highway directly connected to the computer in thier private rooms. I want them to be well advised and careful. I want them to find what they are looking for, most times they don't. Why is this? Have our expectations gone haywire now that the world is at our fingertips? Do we think that all our hopes and dreams will be answered by some amazing stranger we come accross?? I mean the only difference between now and thirty years ago is this computer and what it allows us to do.
The very lonely need not brood on thier own anymore. They may exhibit themselves as they see thier profiles. They can be anything they want. The opposite is true in many ways. Those who have found thenselves the centre of attention may not have the capacity to sell themselves on this new medium. One thing is clear, We have become far more superficial than I ever thought possible. All anyone is concerned about is pictures. They want them to see if you are worthy of thier attention, to see if you are someone they might be inclind to take to bed and also to see if you are someone they can show off to all those they have weaved thier superficial world for. I for one have decided long ago to see people as they are inside. I can appreciate esthetic beauty but will never make it something that is imparitive to my decisions on who I want to court. I have seen that what is inside is truly what counts. Once in a while we encounter those that are beautiful in everyway, and I must say that those of us who aren't looking for the external tend to find it more regularely.
We don't delete when an image pops up that is not what we had in mind, we get to know more about the person. I have been with some of the most beautiful people anyone has ever seen and the reason for this is because we fell for eachother's heart and mind, not for the hair, lips and waist line so many are searching for.
All I'm trying to show here is, maybe you are lonely because you look for the wrong things. Maybe happiness has been there the whole time but your insecurities have disabled you from finding it. Remember that beauty is only skin deep and ugly goes right to the bone.