Wake Up!

One lesson we tend to learn throughout our life is that people grow into wiser, more responsable versions of who they used to be. Sadly once in a while someone we care about can show us that regression can also occur. I have written about one such friend already but there is a far better example of such a person that I intend to share with you now.
During the time I spent with her she was always childlike but at the time I found it endearing. She lived at home with her parents and was taken care of like a child by both her mother and father. Through the years I learned a great deal about her. She had a past, but we all have, to some degree during our teenage years and to judge would be hypocritical. I over looked her short comings and believed that she hadn't been given the opportunity to mature. Soon we were living together and I learned quickly that she was irresponsible and unwilling to give herself fully to an adult relationship. As the bills piled up and the refrigerator emptied she would just go home to her mommy and have everything she needed. If her brakes failed on her car or her tires needed to be renewed daddy would step in and pay for it. I found a job that paid more so that I could pick up the slack around the house and soon found myself resenting her. Three years later I had had enough. She still hadn't grown, she was still a pouting child throwing wild temper tantrums when she didn't get her way and she still couldn't stand on her own two feet. I finally left her. To no ones suprise she went straight home to you know who. She was upset that while she was gone they had given the privacy of the basement to one of thier other children and she was left with a bedroom in the main part of the house where it would be difficult for her to hide her vices. In the five years since I've been gone she has reverted back to old behaviours. I don't know who to blame here. Just yesterday I heard that she has been thrown in jail for assaulting her father and attempting to steal his car. Her mother tearfully spent the evening calling all the people she knew to see if someone would bail her out and allow her daughter to stay with them rather then seeing the situation as a wake up call that the child she continues to "raise" needs help of another kind. I know she reads my blog. I know she will be angry. It's time girl, you need to stop this and grow up. You are 31 years old and are behaving like a fifteen year old. You should be ashamed of yourself for hurting the people that have cared the most for you. You know you have lost me and I will never come back to you but don't throw away the love of everyone else you may have left. The clock is ticking and you can never go back.